When my friend Jordan sent me this picture, it was a gift of
imagery that now lives in my head, laced with interconnections from “Angry
Kitten” and the tilt of a certain mood I was feeling at the time.
the resonance that connected me and the stone, easily as memorable as a
I like sending
favorite pictures I’ve discovered, on-line or in magazines, as birthday
greetings. Recently I was particularly gratified when my 3-year-old grand-niece
Rhian wanted this picture I’d sent of a David Czerny sculpture printed out for
her room. It feels good to hit an image that resonates and I feel like I know
From a chuckle or a smile to a nod of understanding, the
range of connections offered to another in the form of pictures is endless. It
signifies appreciation, one specific individual to another. To hunt through the
world of art and nature for the right picture to send someone stretches out to
another’s uniqueness, not cluttering the world with more objects while still offering
the thought that went into the choosing. Not limited to the world of
manufactured things and their sameness a picture can be more complex in its
ability to trigger thoughts and ideas that arise from the feeling of the
picture. This is the one I send the most because I can’t look at it without
smiling, feeling their pleasure.
In a culture that sends so many pictures this could be an
antidote to the narcissism spawned by having the self as most easily available
subject. To actively look and choose is revelatory in a variety of ways. I’m
always on the lookout for images that make me smile and keep them in a folder
of favorites to draw on when the occasion turns up. The surprises of
illusionistic humor abound in public art so I have a treasure of murals and
sculpture that have been documented. The unexpected stimulates dopamine and pulls
attention away from the self. I also save pictures that touch me in some way,
particularly if they pull me across species boundaries.
It’s never been easier to send pictures and there are
sources of amazement and wonder at sites like thisiscolossal.com or any image
search on a subject that inspires curiosity. Choosing pictures for your
personal library shows you more about who you are inside as you follow your
preferences deeper and see what they bring to mind. It’s way to develop visual
sensitivity letting the sense of beauty provide guidance.
Finding pictures that show more of what matters is
pleasurable enrichment. The more you look, the more you are able to see.
The way our location shapes us is profound. We grow into
the space of our lives in a network of relationships. Our actions and behaviors develop around its requirements of us. People are affected
by the overall state of the location they are part of, an interaction of
multiple systems at work in the area. The patterns of living are structured
within these systems and adaptive to them. We don’t choose our starting
locations but do carry them around in the circuits of our brain where we can
return and search the spaces of memory for strategies to apply to new places. The first homes and the social relationships within them create the conditioned patterns
that later overlay other homes and surroundings. Our relationships in
our first home create expectations for how they are structured later. If they
are difficult, we may seek out those who provide the same difficulties to try
to heal old wounds.
In the effort to understand who we are, more attention might
usefully be given to where we’ve been and its influence on our present way of being. Those that argue that we don't have free will because activity happens in the brain before we are conscious of having the thought aren't considering that the Where circuit in the brain is faster than the What. We realize what we feel by the adjustment within to where we are. It is the stage for how we are, the setting for further action in
relation to it. Each of us is a center of awareness at a particular point in
spacetime, a perspective for consciousness. What we come to understand from the accumulated locations of our
lives is the foundation of what we have to offer. It’s different for everyone
but the pattern of human needs, enacted wherever we are, is universal, so while the perspective is different, we share a responsive core.
We understand the meaning of a place by its relationship to
us which at first we feel as a sense of safety or uncertainty, so the essence of visual
intelligence is in the ability to read the meaning in what we see. That
is why looking at art makes such good education. Its emphasis is meaningful relationships, in the distillation of what is significant. As the world of
information becomes more complex, seeing the relations in the whole will be
Spending more time with screens has sensitized people to the
power of imagery and using visual language. A picture says more than a text,
gets further inside your head. Even with the simulation of being somewhere else than the
body in virtual reality, you know you put on the goggles. Your consciousness
recognizes the layers of reality. This extension of imagery to immersion could build intelligence and be therapeutic. Because the actual dangers are neutralized it
could be an effective way to face fears and develop empathy, to feel what it is
like to inhabit another’s world. It could open new ways to think about consciousness. The accumulation of imagery from the locations in a life
creates a symphonic worldview that encompasses the complexity of experience and
is the perspective we offer the world. It is time to imagine new levels of mind.
between happiness and virtue occurs again and again across time and cultures. Aristotle
saw happiness as the result of cultivation and use of virtue, his golden mean
was similar to the Buddhist middle way. Many of the readings in I Ching
emphasize the importance of being “Blame free” and working for the good of all. Modern brain science confirms what the philosophers observed.
The chemicals secreted when we are giving to others were the subject of an
article in Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/vitality/201404/the-neuroscience-giving
I appreciated that
the article treated smiling at another person as an act of kindness and it’s certainly
the most available. I was about to call it the easiest but actually that
wouldn’t be true. it takes some effort and a little courage to jump into
another’s space and risk rebuff but if a person is willing to meet your eye
they usually smile back. And the person who doesn’t see you at all has made they’re
judgment known, and it wasn’t personal because they didn’t see you in the first
place. When I give money to a beggar it’s more important to me to give them a
chance to talk and be seen, the dollar is just an excuse to offer some
compassion. I almost always feel good afterward. In terms of brain chemistry giving
increases oxytocin (the cuddle chemical)
primarily associated with mother/child bonding, which strengthens connections
to others. This increases dopamine and serotonin. The resulting increase in
empathy builds our ability to read the intentions of others, a powerful
executive function. Not only does it feel good, it makes us smarter.
Other studies have
shown we also stimulate endorphins when we are kind. The pleasure we feel keeps
us doing it. The chemistry is there to keep us in harmony with others and
recognize it as our own benefit. Could the rampant unhappiness in today’s world
have to do with the culture’s encouragement of antagonism and judgment?
Choosing targets responsible for our unhappiness rather than the roots in
ourselves never solves the unhappiness. Judging others is just a way of pushing
ourselves up a notch, an expression of the ego at the base of our suffering.
But the more we judge others the more harshly we judge ourselves. The Buddha
linked compassion to happiness, both in the ability to bring happiness to
another and in the feelings generated by the encouraging brain chemistry.
Another way we give
is through our work. Whatever it is, it is something we contribute. Finding
something that absorbs our interest develops and strengthens the frontal cortex
which is richly connected to the pleasure centers. In a ted talk, Elyn Sachs
said the best defense against mental illness is an absorbing project. It’s
confirmed by my own experience and my sense that happiness involves sending
attention outward. The more attention we give the more it gives back.